The most crucial moment he misses, seems so obvious to me as a reader, is where he “grabs her head and shoves it towards his crotch.” The moment where he doesn’t ask politely for what he wants, negotiate that moment, give her any choice; where he uses his superior upper-body strength to force her to fellate him.

Is force too strong a word? Did he mean it as force? She did ask if there was anything she could do, after all. But should that have been taken as a blank cheque? If you were in some financial difficulty and a friend asked sympathetically, “Is there anything I can do?” would you be justified in ripping their wallet out of their pocket and grabbing all the cash in it, without further conversation? And would you then have scolded them for not having enough cash in their wallet?

Maybe if she had protested, he would have relented. Yup, possibly so. But maybe by then, she was too scared to protest. Maybe her lifelong programming as a subservient, compliant, helpful female took over — as well as the realistic, pragmatic sense of self-preservation which makes women very reluctant to say No to men once already in an intimate/vulnerable position. Because saying No to men can be dangerous.

But after that moment, it’s darned near impossible for me to imagine any woman thinking, “Oh, this is a guy I’d love to spend more time with.” It’s all too easy to imagine her thinking, “Am I gonna get out of this situation alive and unharmed?” and counting the minutes until she can find some polite way to get the heck out that door and safely home.

Cleverly written, very well written, to keep the woman’s internal voice right out of the story, tell it all from his point of view… kudos to the author.

Retired; ex-software engineer. Paleo-feminist. Sailor. Arduino tinkerer. Enviro. Libertarian Socialist (Anarcho-Syndicalist, kinda). Writer. Altermondialiste.

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